Infertiles are used to supporting each other; not tearing each other down. Maybe that is why I am so appalled at the actions of some other women.
Since becoming a mother and living "on the other side of the track," I have begun to realize the true Mommy War that goes on.
Yes, I chose to feed my babies formula from day one. I know, I am a horrible and selfish person for not wanting to give my babies the best nutrients from breastfeeding. I am a monster.
Yes, I work. I leave my babies for 8 hours a day with strangers at a daycare center. They are around other people besides family for most of their awake time during the week. I am a monster.
Yes, I vaccinate my babies. I let nurses plunge syringes filled with the evil health care companies' concoction to save my babies from future diseases. I am a monster.
Yes, I use disposable diapers and disposable wipes. I load the landfills with Pampers and Luvs. I am a monster.
Yes, I pierced my daughter's ears. At. The. Doctor's. Office. I let the nurse permanently alter my daughter's ears because she would have most likely felt the pain at six years old when she would eventually want it done. She looks adorable and she didn't even cry. But I am a monster.
Yes, I give my babies packaged baby food. I don't steam, mash and make my own baby food. Heck, I have the audacity to not even buy "Organic." They seem to be just fine with the good old Gerber but, again, I am the monster.
Yes, I had a medicated birth; it was awesome. After that epidural, I was in heaven giving birth to my son; too bad I still missed my daughter's birth for having to be put under. My poor children have a monster of a mom!
We all do choose, or will choose to raise our children in our own way -- a way we choose is best for our precious babes. It doesn't make another's choice wrong. And it doesn't make another mother out to be a monster.
We all do choose, or will choose to raise our children in our own way -- a way we choose is best for our precious babes. It doesn't make another's choice wrong. And it doesn't make another mother out to be a monster.
Why do women feel the need to judge others' choices in motherhood? It used to bug me. Now, I simply block out those other mom's ideas about my choices. My babies are happy and healthy. They love; they laugh; they are growing; and they are MINE.
I wish that the mothering community took a page out of the infertility book. Support is what is needed, not judgement of who does what best.
I loved this link that a mother group created. A Mother Group that gets it.
You are all amazing no matter who says otherwise!!!
-Lisa-
As a parent, you are keeping your children safe and loving them, then you are a great parent. Period. This is the hardest thing in life to do and there will be so many times that you will question a decision you made. People need to seriously worry about their own.
ReplyDeleteIt's ridiculous that people are judged on stuff like this. You are doing an amazing job with your babies and don't let anyone else ever tell you differently.
ReplyDeleteI love this! you hit the nail on the head.
ReplyDeleteWas searching for my GF's blog and came across your interesting one. Came to a recent entry where you had your daughter's ears pierced. You were smart mommy, not a mean one for doing it now. Some may differ, but she'll thank you later!
ReplyDeleteThis was a perfect age to pierce her ears! She is totally precious with those cute earrings. I believe it is always best done early when she wouldn’t remember and have mommy care for them during the healing phase. When they’re older, they will think they are a part of them and won’t bother them.
Our ped encouraged me to do it when mommy could care for them. Also, she gave me some tips for moms helping them to find the right person, place and type of earrings to use for infants having their ears pierced.
Would be happy to share by e-mail with any moms wanting more info.
Amyswor1765@gmail.com
Love this, I am a monster just like you! And my kids are so incredibly happy... I couldn't be prouder to say I am a monster.
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with everything on this post! I am just like you! I hate when others make me feel "bad" for making some of the parenting decisions. You are completely right!
ReplyDeleteI agree 100%!!!! I am currently writing a post about the "mommy olympics" that always seems to go on about these very issues.
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